How to Parent in Faith not Fear

It doesn’t matter what stage of parenting you’re in, we all face fear.  It may be the fear of never being able to get pregnant or early miscarriage, the fear of a traumatic birth, not being able to hack breastfeeding, the fear of losing your child, not being a good enough parent and on and on it goes.  Fear can strike us at any moment so we need to learn how to parent in faith not fear.

For me it would always come as I was laying my head on my pillow at night.  I would have horrible thoughts of seeing my child harmed in some cruel way, being taken or the tragedy of illness.  I would sometimes be crying myself to sleep with those horrible images in my mind.

Fear would grip my heart and mind at the strangest of times. I shared my fears with my husband and he was at a complete loss as to why I had such irrational thoughts.  Why was I so scared?

I realised I had to take a stand to overcome these fears for my child.  I had to start parenting in faith and not fear – but how?  I started with the night time fears.  As those fearful images entered my mind at night I would speak out 2 Timothy 1:7.

For God has not given me a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind.

I started using the living Word of God to overcome fear.  I would speak out in faith to remove the fear in my life.  And I would say it until the fear left.  It was hours sometimes before I fell asleep at peace.  It took months of applying my faith in fearful situations before I felt confident in my faith and at peace.  But I kept standing in faith until the fear left.

I would speak out the living word of God that brings life, hope, peace and faith.  I would say it until my mind knew it, my heart felt it and my spirit believed it.  I practised using my faith to overcome fear in my life.

It’s important to understand that first, we all experience fear in our life and that as parents we can be in a  vulnerable state of mind – it’s not just you.  And second, recognise that fear is of the enemy and faith comes from God. You have the power of Christ to overcome fear in your life.

Don’t just put it down to hormones, lack of sleep and parenting inadequacies. Activate your faith to overcome fear and you’ll see peace, faith, hope and love instead. Now when I have an irrational thought or a real life emergency I face it with faith and not fear.

Practice using your faith until it becomes your first response.  You can start by speaking out scripture from the Bible to build your faith.

So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ. Romans 10:17

Do you face fears in parenting?  What scriptures do you use to overcome fear with faith?

 

17 Comments
  • Judi
    January 5, 2015

    This is a timely post for me as with all the sad news stories we have had lately fear has been twisting my insides up. Thank you for your wonderful insight and can I ask on my King James Bible sight the question is Christmas a pagan or christian celebration was put to people most said pagan what do you and your readers think/

    • tnjcupido@me.com
      January 5, 2015

      Hi Judi,

      So blessed this post encouraged you in your faith. I wrote a post about our Christmas traditions here: http://www.jennycupido.com/family-christmas-traditions/

      Celebrating Jesus’ Birthday is definitely something we as a family do. People from different places and cultures will have different ways of expressing it, but as long as the heart is to worship our saviour who created celebrating, I believe it is definitely something we need to celebrate as the body of Christ. Seeking God as to how you celebrate is important, especially once you’re setting an example for your own children. But don’t be afraid to celebrate and have fun. God created feasts and celebrations and encouraged his people to never forget to celebrate. Blessings xx

      • Judi
        January 6, 2015

        thank you again Jenny you are on the right track as usual we just need to focus more on Jesus less on Santa Claus

  • Trudy
    January 6, 2015

    I’m glad you stopped in at my site, so I could find out about this post, Jenny. Those default thought patterns can run so deep, can’t they? I love how you face the fear with God’s TRUTH. Satan loves to discourage us, but at the name of Jesus, he must flee! Praying Jesus will hold you in His embrace as you face those fears for our children.

    • tnjcupido@me.com
      January 7, 2015

      Trudy thanks so much for reading! I just love your blog and got sucked right in. Fancy joining me in a blog hop?? We’re just sharing 10 things we don’t know about you. Would love to have you join in so I can share your blog with others.

  • Cheryl
    January 6, 2015

    I do think my fear increased with having children. The wildly vivid, irrational fears came and still come. I do have to purpose to push against the fear. The fear feels so real. And sometimes, the fear comes true. I have found grace and strength at the time of facing my fears. The passages of scripture that help me most are ones that remind me to trust in Him. That, and looking back over His provision.

    • tnjcupido@me.com
      January 7, 2015

      Cheryl, I love your honesty. Fear always seems so real, that’s its purpose, but faith is an verb. We have to take action in our faith to remove fear in our hearts and minds. That is when the unseen will become seen – through activating our faith. Keep speaking out His truth until the fear is no more and faith becomes your first reaction instead of fear. Standing with you in the journey! Blessings, Jenny x

  • Cathy Cosenza
    January 7, 2015

    Jenny, this post is so spot on! Thank you for your insight and instruction on what has helped you be an overcomer in the face of fear and how you use your faith as the focal point when speaking the word of God’s Truth to cause the fear to flee! Even though our three adult children are grown, I still at times have to put this very same thing into practice. One thing I’ve also learned when I am tempted to go down that road of worry and fear is that I start singing Praise & Worship songs and nearly 100 percent of the time the fear flies out the window! I have shared your link on my FB wall in hopes others will benefit from this post! Great inspiration! 🙂

    • tnjcupido@me.com
      January 7, 2015

      Cathy, thank you so much for sharing! I love to turn on praise & worship music to build my faith. We like to blast it first thing in the morning to set the mood for the day. Always puts our eyes on Jesus.

  • Kelly Balarie
    January 7, 2015

    Yes! Faith over fear. This is so true and so required to win the battle. Thank you for refocusing my mind. Sometimes I let worries prevail and I have got to fight back more with faith. Thank you so much! Cheering on your wise words.

    • tnjcupido@me.com
      January 7, 2015

      Thanks so much for your encouragement Kelly. Am loving all the cheerleading from the Rara linkup!

  • Jo Cross @ Real Married Life
    January 18, 2015

    I never really struggled with irrational fears until I got pregnant, then they exploded after the baby was born. I felt crazy with such paralyzing fears about caring for our daughter. I would dwell on the scripture “perfect love casts out fear” – but you’ve given a wonderful perspective. I do other things motivated by faith, and parenting has to be one as well. So glad I found this post of yours!

    • tnjcupido@me.com
      January 18, 2015

      Parenting in faith is a huge stretch of our faith as it’s such a learning curve but as we practice using our faith in parenting we are showing our kids Christ and his life changing power! We sometimes forget the God was the first father and we can gain so much wisdom and peace from him. Thanks so much for sharing Jo. Can’t wait to read your post tomorrow!! xx

  • Stasia
    January 19, 2015

    LOVE this! Thank you for sharing!

    • tnjcupido@me.com
      January 19, 2015

      Thanks Stasia – really appreciate the encouragement!! x

  • Scott and Cathy Thomson
    August 19, 2016

    Great post, thank you! It’s so easy to be gripped by fear isn’t it. We find that reminding ourselves of the character of the Good we have faith in really helps. Our Father is good and is for us – he is in control and working for good. That means that even if our worst case scenario happens we still don’t need to fear, because God remains in charge and crucially remains good.

    • Jenny Cupido
      September 21, 2016

      That’s so true. Fear makes us forget the goodness of God. Thanks so much for sharing.

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