It doesn’t matter what stage of parenting you’re in, we all face fear. It may be the fear of never being able to get pregnant or early miscarriage, the fear of a traumatic birth, not being able to hack breastfeeding, the fear of losing your child, not being a good enough parent and on and on it goes. Fear can strike us at any moment so we need to learn how to parent in faith not fear.
For me it would always come as I was laying my head on my pillow at night. I would have horrible thoughts of seeing my child harmed in some cruel way, being taken or the tragedy of illness. I would sometimes be crying myself to sleep with those horrible images in my mind.
Fear would grip my heart and mind at the strangest of times. I shared my fears with my husband and he was at a complete loss as to why I had such irrational thoughts. Why was I so scared?
I realised I had to take a stand to overcome these fears for my child. I had to start parenting in faith and not fear – but how? I started with the night time fears. As those fearful images entered my mind at night I would speak out 2 Timothy 1:7.
For God has not given me a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind.
I started using the living Word of God to overcome fear. I would speak out in faith to remove the fear in my life. And I would say it until the fear left. It was hours sometimes before I fell asleep at peace. It took months of applying my faith in fearful situations before I felt confident in my faith and at peace. But I kept standing in faith until the fear left.
I would speak out the living word of God that brings life, hope, peace and faith. I would say it until my mind knew it, my heart felt it and my spirit believed it. I practised using my faith to overcome fear in my life.
It’s important to understand that first, we all experience fear in our life and that as parents we can be in a vulnerable state of mind – it’s not just you. And second, recognise that fear is of the enemy and faith comes from God. You have the power of Christ to overcome fear in your life.
Don’t just put it down to hormones, lack of sleep and parenting inadequacies. Activate your faith to overcome fear and you’ll see peace, faith, hope and love instead. Now when I have an irrational thought or a real life emergency I face it with faith and not fear.
Practice using your faith until it becomes your first response. You can start by speaking out scripture from the Bible to build your faith.
So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ. Romans 10:17
Do you face fears in parenting? What scriptures do you use to overcome fear with faith?